Thursday, March 24, 2011

To quit or not to quit. That is the question of the day.

We had a little situation here on Monday night.

Jayden started going to dance class a few weeks ago.  I thought she loved it.  On Monday night, when I told her to get ready, she started saying things like, "I don't want to go.  I don't want to be a dancer anymore."

Now, if you know my daughter, this is absurd. 

While I don't have a natural rhythm and pretty much can't dance to save my life, Jayden is the kind of person who, at the sound of music, starts to move her shoulders to the beat.  I don't even think she realizes she does it...she just feels the music.

I asked her why she didn't want to go and she would just whine and say, "Because..."  She was in tears.

If I suspected that she truly hated dance class with all her heart and soul, I would let her quit.  And I didn't get the sense that she was being bullied or anything like that, but I felt like a monster forcing her to go.

I told her she had to go that night, but if she decided that she didn't want to go again, that could be her last class.

Brand dropped her off and told her teacher the situation and that we have a potential drop-out on our hands.

Fast forward an hour later.

Jayden walks in the house with a big smile on her face and tells me she was sorry for acting crazy and mean before she left.

Needless to say, she has decided to not hang up her dancing shoes just yet.

So my question is this:  How do you know when you should let your kid quit an activity or when you should force them to do something they don't want to do?

Shoot, I quit band in high school because the director was a douche and embarrassed me one time.

My dad still hasn't let me live that one down.  After all, flutes are very expensive.  :)

1 comment:

  1. i quit baseball cause i used to get hit everytime i went up to bat. love your brother.